32 Red Flags Of Manipulative People: Narcissist, Sociopath …

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Sadly, people get entangled in toxic relationships with people who have twisted personalities, warped mentalities, narcissists and manipulators. 

The most painful part is the fact that they do not know about such people until they have been reeled in and drained emotionally, physically and psychologically. Which brings to mind, how difficult it is to actually spot these people, so you can stay away from them before it becomes too late.

Manipulators are people who would coerce you to do what they want without necessary using force. Instead, they play on your intelligence and wit. Here are 30 signs that makes you realize you are dealing with a manipulator.

1 . THEY LIE

With a manipulator, there is always a reason for their actions. They do not hesitate to give excuses for what they have done, even in situations that does not call for it. For every of their actions, someone else is at fault and never themselves.

2. JOKINGLY INSULTS YOU

Manipulators and narcissists will hide their insults under the veil of jokes. They throw hurtful and degrading remarks about you, and pretend it’s all a big joke. When you protest about it, they blame you for having no sense of humor.

3. WILL NEVER MAKE EFFORT TO UNDERSTAND YOU OR ANYONE ELSE

For you to understand someone, you must first of all place yourself in their shoes. If you see things from people’s point of view or perspective, you are more likely to understand their actions and less likely to judge. Manipulators will never put themselves in people’s shoes and so cannot understand them.

   

4. ALWAYS HAS SOMETHING NEGATIVE TO SAY

People who are self-centered and jealous can never see positivity in anything. They are always critical of people and things. They drain the positive energy in any environment and always end up putting people in gloomy or sad moods.

5.  ARE ALWAYS BOTHERED BY THE CRAZY EX

If you are engaged in a conversation with a narcissist or manipulator, they will always talk about that crazy ex who never seems to want to let them go. They will always talk about how this ex plagues them all the time , just so you will think they are amazing.

6. YOU ARE NOT AT EASE AROUND THEM

You are always on edge around them. This is because they are always complaining about one thing or another. To please them, you constantly wonder what to do around them

7. YOU HAVE TO COMPETE FOR THEIR ATTENTION

If you are in a relationship with someone who constantly manipulates you, you always have to compete for their attention with their numerous friends and admirers. Most times they do not seem to care, whether or not you are around.

   

8. THEY ALWAYS COMPARE YOU TO SOMEONE ELSE

With manipulators, you can never measure up. There will always be someone better than you are. It could be their family members, their ex or people who admire them. There will always be a yardstick to measure your worth.

   

9. THEY CONSTANTLY MAKE YOU JEALOUS

Manipulators will not hesitate to seize every opportunity to make you jealous. They enjoy seeing you uncomfortable when you spot them with someone. It could be their ex or someone they flirt. The main issue is that they deliberately keep you on edge.

   

10. THEY ARE STINGY WITH ATTENTION

At first, when you met them, they showered you with lots of attention and compliments. All of a sudden, the attention ceased and it is almost as if you do not exist. The love and attentions does not flow as easily as it used to, making you desperate for their attention.

11. THEY ARE HASTY WITH LOVE DECISIONS

True love takes time, and builds from a lot of qualities of both parties including respect, trust and communication. With the manipulator, everything happens so quickly, and before you know it, they are declaring undying love for you. It is all an act to reel you in for disaster.

   

12. EMPHASIZES YOUR MISTAKES AND IGNORES THEIRS

As earlier mentioned, the manipulator will think of themselves as perfect and without flaw. You on the other hand are flawed and full of mistakes. You can never do anything right, according to them and they never hesitate to let you know how lucky you are to have them.

13. FLATTER YOUR INSECURITIES

If you have insecurities about any part of your life, they will make effort to flatter it and make you feel like they are trying to help. In the end, all they are doing is trying to gain your trust and make you comfortable around them.

14. MAKES YOU SELF-CONSCIOUS ABOUT YOUR LOOKS

A manipulator and narcissist is obsessed with their physical appearance, and with time, they will make you obsessed too. They will make you constantly aware of how you look, what you wear and gradually, you find yourself staring in the mirror for long time.

15. THEY DRAIN YOU

Like all narcissists, manipulators are more concerned with what they can get from you. All they do is take and take and take. They will not stop until you have been completely drained of all your worth, and that includes emotionally, mentally and psychologically

   

16. CONSTANTLY HUMILIATE YOU

This is one thing they do not waste time doing. They will put you down constantly, even in public, without caring about your image. They place you in position where you have to battle with your composure and integrity.

17. THEY ARE HYPOCRITES

Manipulators are good motivators too. They expect so much integrity, dedication, trust and several other good qualities from you, but they make no effort to do same. You are expected to be perfect, and they are expected to continue with their ways.

18. THEY SEEM BORED BY YOU

Not quite long ago, you were at the center of their attention. You meant the whole world to them and now they just don’t want to spend time with you anymore. They find you boring and they get easily irritated and annoyed by what you do.

19. THEY CONSTANTLY TALK ABOUT THEIR EX

With the way the go on and on about the people they have dated before, it’s almost as if you know them. You know their names, their personalities, their likes and dislikes, even down to their favorite colors. This is as a result of how much they won’t stop talking about them.

20. EMOTIONALLY ACCUSE YOU

A manipulator will provoke emotions in you and turn around and blame you for reacting to it. They will call you jealous for lashing out at him flirting with someone else, and call you crazy for being honest.

21. YOU ARE CONSTANTLY DEFENDING YOURSELF

Unlike other stable relationships where a couple work together to resolve their differences, a relationship with a manipulator always involves you standing up for yourself and defending yourself from all his accusations. You always need to make him understand you.

22. THEY DO NOT RELATE WITH THEIR EMOTIONS

Someone who is very skilled at manipulating people’s emotions will tell you one thing and mean the next. For example, they may tell you that they love you so much, but their actions speak otherwise. Even their eyes will tell you that they are not that into you.

23. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE WHO KNOWS WHAT THEY ARE

You are the one who constantly spends time with them. You are the only one who sees through their lies and deceit. You are the only one who knows what goes on in their heads, and because of that, they will make you look like the bad person.

24. THEY TURN EVERYONE AGAINST YOU

They successfully make everyone see you as the bad or crazy person. They paint themselves as the victim, and make everyone believe they are the ones in pain. This usually happens when you must have discovered who they truly are.

25. THEY MAKE YOU EDGY

It is fun to them, watching you tear yourself apart from the inside with worry. It is not something you are used to, but all of a sudden, you find yourself sniffing around him for clues that he is up to something.

26. THEY ADOPT DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES

One moment they are charming to a guest, the next minute, they are hostile and condescending to you. They become different persons for different people, which leaves you wondering which one is the real them.

27. THEY MAKE YOU SCARED OF LOSING THEM

When they have you deep in their clutches, they make you completely dependent on them that you would not want to lose them. They make you apologize and beg just so that the relationship will continue.

   

28. THEY DERIVE PLEASURE IN RUINING PEOPLE’S HAPPINESS

In this case, it is not just your happiness that is involved. Everyone who seems happy and content, they take it upon themselves to ruin their relationships. They derive joy in seeing people in pain.

29. THEY LIE

This is the way they weave their way into people’s lives, by telling lies and making the other person believe it is true. They tell you exactly what you want to hear because they have already taken time to find out a lot about you.

30. THEY EXPECT YOU TO BE A MIND-READER

When something goes wrong, it is your fault because you were supposed to know what to do. They do something wrong and they turn around and blame you because you were supposed to know what they want and what they do not. 

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