Presently, there is a massive amount of pressure on youngsters and unmarried people to get hitched or hooked to a partner. Everyone loves a happy ending, but what if your happy ending is not coming as quickly as you want it to? When someone gets past the adolescent age, all they are mostly concerned about is finding a partner, even if it is not what they need at that moment.
Society has made it such a way that people worry about who they will end up with, meanwhile they have more pressing issues to be worried and concerned about, like how you want your future to be like and all that.
Because our lives mostly revolve around partnership and getting paired up, we sometimes feel incomplete when we are not with anyone. The truth is, there is nothing wrong with being single, likewise having a partner. But society has made it so, and people who are not paired up feel unaccomplished. Being without a partner can make one anxious or insecure, and on that note, below are ways to quiet those anxieties and feel better.
EMBRACE YOUR SINGLEHOOD
As earlier mentioned, there is nothing wrong with being single. In fact, this is a precious moment you need to savour while you still have it. It may seem like you are being forced to know yourself as you are single, however the truth is that you are the only one that can give yourself the kind of love that you deserve. Use your single moments to discover the things that make you unique. What are your likes? What makes you happy or sad? What are your interests? These questions and more are some of the questions that you should find answers to before you even think of being with someone. Put in the work and make yourself the perfect person for your would be partner.
PREPARE YOUR SELF
If you are still single, it is probably because you are not ready to be paired or coupled up with someone. It may not be a physical effort, but it could be that you are not prepared mentally for the journey. When you have prepared yourself mentally, psychologically and emotionally, then you will equally meet someone who is as prepared and who knows themselves as you do.
PREPARE YOUR MIND FOR THE PRESSURE
Whether you like it or not, you are going to be under enormous pressure once you are single. You are going to disappoint a lot of people whether the choice is yours or not to be single. In society, it may be normal for people to be in courtship or married at some point. When you go against that normality, whether it is your fault or not, you will be seen as a disappointment. The sooner you prepare your mind for such pressure, the less you will be affected by it.
TRY NOT TO WORRY
You must realise and understand that no matter how hard you try, you will never fit into the standards that people set in society. The society does not care if it your fault or not, it is the end results that they care about. As much as you can, try not to dwell on those ideals that have been put in place, and just be yourself. Do the things that make you happy and fulfilled, and pay attention to the things that matter, like your peace of mind. When you pay less attention to what people think about your relationship issues, the better you will feel.
DON’T BE A PEOPLE PLEASER
If you look at the bright side, you are probably not feeling anxious because you are single, you are probably feeling that way because you want to please a certain group of people you have no business pleasing. In cases like this, you will not even feel better when you meet someone and get into a relationship. To solve this problem, you would have to think about why you feel the
need to change a certain part of yourself because you want to please people. Coming to terms with this on your own will help you realise that it is not the way to live.
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UNDERSTAND THAT YOU ARE SINGLE FOR A REASON
If you needed to be in a relationship, you probably would have been in one by now. Sometimes, the universe has a way of making things happen for our benefit even if we may not agree with the process. You are probably still single for a reason, and you should take the time to find out why. Who knows, if you had been involved in a form of entanglement with someone, it would have ended badly. Bearing this in mind will make you see the benefit of your singlehood, and enjoy it while it lasts.