A sx-xherapist has listed the seven things you should know about your partner, Todd Baratz, a certified sx-therapist from the US, revealed exactly what you should know about your significant other if you want a successful relationship.
“I rarely use the word should, but you should know these things,” he wrote on Instagram.
“Unfortunately few of us get any kind of relational education so most do not learn to have these conversations or feel safe enough to ask or answer,” Baratz continued.
Below are 7 things couple should know about each other according to Baratz:
1. Childhood history
Opening up about your childhood experiences can help your partner better understand you as a person. As family relationships and friendships can impact who are you are, it’s important to discuss these early development years.
‘The only relationships that directly parallel each other are the ones we have with our original caregivers and adult partners,’ Todd wrote on Instagram.
“The more you know about each other’s history the better you can become at understanding triggers and navigate around or through conflict, disconnection and therefore the easier it becomes to create repair.”
2. Relational history
While most prefer to not ask about their partner’s relationship history, it can be a good conversation to have as you can learnt what went wrong prior. Todd recommends discussing your social, romantic, and xual relationships.
‘From what worked, what didn’t work, and past challenges to lessons learnt, knowing each other’s relational past is crucial when building a relational future,’ he said.
This will not only benefit your partner but yourself as well to help better understand what hasn’t worked well in the past.
3. Love preferences.
In addition to your love language, talk about your love preferences, which hone in on actions your partner can do to make you feel loved.
‘Everyone has a variety of different preferences for how they like to give and receive love. And don’t use broad categories like a love language,’ Todd wrote.
‘Explicitly state the words, actions, and experiences you crave that drive your closeness preferences.’
For instance, those with the love language ‘acts of service’ may enjoy when their partner brings them a cup of tea or makes them dinner.
Or those whose love language is ‘words of affirmation’ may feel loved when their partner compliments their outfit.
‘Keep in mind that these preferences may change depending on the context, time of day, and more. This information is what is means to anticipate needs and provide care,’ Todd said.
4. Relational challenges
5. xual desires, kinks and eroticism
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